Maybe we’ve also been opening to the complexities of how we choose partners, and somewhat repeat, to varying degrees, methods of relating and giving and receiving love based on our childhood influences. And yet as we grow, often something nagging persists. There can be even a sense of personal pain related to the feeling that we are missing some core understanding, or way of Being. You are not alone.
Part of it is the unexamined context we assume or operate in regarding sex and love. Conditioning from society, and how we were loved (or not loved) as a child form a deep, frequently unexamined, and even invisible, powerful internalized world view which fundamentally creates and perpetuates our outer reality. And very often this unexamined context of sex and love we adopt, and the reality it creates, falls way short of our natural core capacity to fully participate with the life-giving and intelligent energies of sexuaity, and obsures our capacity to expereince love, and ourselves and another, from Essence or our higher-self.
As we release ourselves from the conditioning of society, and impressions of how we were loved (or not) as children, there is a core intelligence each person has that can be a guide to how they will be fulfilled in loving and being loved. We can uncover and discover this core intelligence, and then cultivate it if we desire.
Plus, there are core common truths about how human beings function as sexual and loving beings, and significant essential truths about our spiritual nature, as well.
Single or coupled, an individual can become well acquainted and empowered with their most core sexual nature, while becoming clear with their spiritual sense of self or their higher-self, and how to join our sexual self and higher-self to attract and create extraordinary relationships.
This work will awaken and stabilize a deep and powerful sexual intelligence we all share while your overall consciousness is expanded. Intelligent sexual energy (a natural form of the erotic) will join with your higher consciousness.
This will enhance your life and create a much-improved future. Your sexuality will support your awakening and evolution. This will create a life where your body reveals how sexual-love can open ego to Being or higher-self consciousness.
Strong words here but true: You will access capacity to honor and release karma. This is because our unexamined beliefs and conditioning we adopted as child is how karma is “downloaded” and later creates adult reality – seeing and releasing unexamined beliefs and conditioning frees us to awaken to Essence. Sometimes a bit hesitant at first, Being increasingly arises, and authentic empowerment flowers. You’ll find yourself attracting people, or deepening your current connections, to share your growing capacity for enriched sexuality and expanded consciousness.
And as you may be seeing, this all relates to a paradigm shift which is here now. This is a full expression of your erotic and powerful sexuality which aligns with your fully loving higher-consciousness, and the higher consciousness that is coming into our world today. It’s in you, it just needs to be fortified and established in your life. And you know this is best done with solid support.
“Relating with precision to the moment, introduces the future.” – Thomas Hubl
Why? Because what is familiar is often comfortable, perhaps not fulfilling, but comfortable… and very often safe too.
And of course, there ARE true relative or relational matters most of us come up against. Childhood wounds, attachment issues, and our emotional needs and dependencies can get projected onto our partner. These projections are the unexamined and amplified ego-interpretations of another. For a conscious and open couple, such projections are a gift, because they offer the opportunity to grow in intimacy and self-awareness. Unexamined, they can create a web of distortion and dependency, that may suffocate and destroy the relationship.
This is where counseling and therapy can be very supportive. In our work at Sex Love and Power, we keep a watchful eye-out for such challenges and can engage them fully. We can trust that well-handled growth work will reveal areas in us that need healing work. With this standard of care in place, in our work, we begin with a growth oriented approach to embrace an updated higher-consciousness context on sex and love – and commit to the life-changing work of embodying this higher-consciousness context. We are here to support you in exploring and inhabiting your Essence more often in sex and love, to open up to the experience of Being based sex and love. Experiences which, by any measure, are truly unparalleled in their depth, pleasure, sense of profound love, scope, and impact.
Another part of these challenges that more conscious or spiritually inclined people come up against is truly cosmic. As we commit to a spiritual or more conscious life, and get in touch with our higher or true nature, we begin to touch into a larger cosmic order. And in this larger scheme of things, we are being asked to evolve more than ever before.
This also introduces a whole new purpose to embrace this context of higher-consciousness in sex and love – that is, embracing conscious sexuality and higher love to support our awakening as a species. Here is Eckhart Tolle on the matter:
And not to worry, Mr. Tolle is quite pro-sexual as he continues here:
However, as we deepen in this work that we offer, we can relax. Ahhh. And pause. We can see that as people grow and start practicing things like mindfulness and meditation, even with good sex, and comfortable love and companionship, increasingly, this may not be enough to hold relationships together. With compassion we begin to see this stems not from a perspective of relationship problems, but from a longing for more than comfort or even the desire for improvement. This is a more authentic desire for a deeper and higher connection that we know can arise. And, we sense, or know directly, that this is more than ego based.
“Oh, this is about how to manifest a soul-mate,” you might be saying. Not really. What we are referring to here is not something to do, or how to get something— it is a way to be. A way to be, which allows you enter into the flow of life, a river of life force which wants fulfillment for you, and all women and men, in any kind of sexual-love relationship that they desire. If it is a soul mate you desire, then yes, soul mate it is. Whatever it is you desire, more essential experiences of sex and love will be part of your journey.
There are also well-researched, but little known understandings, which indicate the following: As we mature or evolve our consciousness, we ‘need’ and want better sex— transcendent sex. The same goes for more love. We ‘need’ more love — a higher love from a higher sense of self.
This IS why needs and interests regarding sex and love begin to shift: There is a higher need, a spiritual need, that is not getting met. And this is natural. Unfortunately, these embodiments around sexual-love are all too rare in our society, and quite honestly, in the world at large. And you can relax, you are in good company here.
Fully live into and trust yourself with desire, lust, attraction, attachment, love and bonding.
We work primarily one-on-one, with singles and couples, online via Skype or Zoom. For those of you unfamiliar, such video conferencing can be very intimate and powerful. Depending upon circumstances we can also make arrangements to work in person.
This threefold path, although customized to best support individual clients, does address an overall flow as described here:
Throughout, upleveling and updating context, while referencing the two experiential paths mentioned above, we work with powerful injunctions to dramatically expand perceptual orientation to sexual sensation to explore and build sexual energy, and open to higher-consciousness.
Injunctions are chosen very deliberate interpersonal behaviors which often challenge – and dissolve – deeply held, and limited, egoic views of reality (in our case, egoic views of sexuality and higher-consciousness). This can open the gates to movement on a spectrum of consciousness with less ego and more Essence. Attention can shift from ego to Being. So when you practice a particular injunction, you’re laying the groundwork for greater consciousness to infuse your experience of sex and sexuality more often, and for longer periods of time. Eventually the injunctions give way to a natural higher sense of self which emerges on its own. Injunctions are excellent tools for integrating your sexuality with your higher-consciousness . . . which then supports even more expansion of consciousness. Anya and myself are very skilled at working with a wide array of potent injunctions.
It takes a somewhat practiced, yet natural capacity, and an artful sense of it all, to see that this is normal. And single or partnered, to be able access, radiate, and stabilize this as an individual. These capacities are literally aspects ourselves we wake-up to, and are part of an awakened life.
This is very deep and powerful work focused on utilizing sexual energy to shift perception of self, and increasingly open to Essence or higher-self. We then work to become more familiar with relating to another from Essence and less from ego.
Experiencing sexuality from Essence is not something you do, this is a state of Being. And true, even with no practice, it does arise, it is natural, many have had such moments . . . often when we have felt pure unrestricted love. In fact, such higher love often arises on it’s own much more readily when we become acquainted with Essence and Being.
We steadily shift from seeking love, to being love – and if we are partnered – to sharing this Being based love. We shift from wanting love, to desiring to share higher love – this in itself is very big shift.
Beyond the actual “how” of this, it takes desire and willingness. Or you have had a longing for this, even an ache, and you can feel the truth based “Yes, this is what I am here for” arising from inside. And, it can be done alone. But we can get really “stuck” as well – Anya and myself, a strong couple in our day, and no slackers on the path, hit some real tough spots we barely got through.
There is a huge benefit of working with those who have navigated this space experientially.
Think of it metaphorically like trying to light a fire, a fire of higher consciousness, your fire with light-up more readily when you are exploring and working in the proximity of those who have stabilized this natural flame – for truly – there are non-physical energies here that do need to be catalyzed and activated.
. . . This work is the culmination of 40 combined years of deep work between Anya and myself, our commitment to truth based bodies of work, years with psychotherapy, spiritual teachers, and focused graduate level professionalism.
Our dedication to this path manifested in our own higher-consciousness breakthrough(s) together when we were a couple. We experienced our opening to the universal truths of higher-consciousness sex and love, and we learned the nuances of accessing Essence we are discussing here (read more here).
We are dedicated, skilled, and embodied. This direct personal life experience we opened to, offers a very robust resource for clients to “lean into.” Resources where clients experience more ease of access to the increased capacity, and the transformation they are longing for.
Is this for you? We will say this, if you are growing, doing consciousness or spiritual work, not making a choice can become choice. A default choice to a pre-exisiting context where we are prone to unknowingly relive our past – this can be very frustrating and even painful.
Here is Bruce Tift, a Buddhist oriented Psychotherapist, author of “Already Free” on this important, yet sometimes hard to see choice:
“Most of us are far more comfortable with neurosis than sanity. Who’s not more comfortable avoiding intense disturbance than participating with it? We’re never going to want to practice sanity, because it is so difficult. Doing so requires discipline to reembody into sensations that were associated with the survival-level threats we had to deal with as children. We’ve trained ourselves to take the easier, safe-feeling way out. After all, our young strategies were survival strategies, not quality of life strategies.”
“Pain pushes until passion pulls.” – Michael Beckwith
To choose what wants to be born, the true freedom of core sexual intelligence, and living more from Essence; this is a choice to align with deeper and higher resources which are imbued with innate life giving wisdom, joy and love, and is intrinsically self-organizing and supportive.
“Becoming intimate with complexity allows for simplicity.” – Thomas Hubl
Working with us can become a space to open to the depths of your sexual intelligence, explore relating from Essence, and become more familiar with living from your core truths of sexuality and higher consciousness.